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Why does one feel it is ok to make their loved one an emotional punchingbag? Is it that how we as human beings really get a positive feeling prostheleizeing, belittling, and lecturing?
The reason I ask is that I come from a family with mental illness and mood disorders. Being the middle child was everything and more that they say it is in the books.
I'm not sure if this is why I'm what is considered an Empath or if I would have been one even if my childhood had been Idillic.
I do know this it has given me an insight into the Sociology of our society today.
Everytime I start to feel sorry for myself I remember it could have been worse I could feel nothing. I could have chosen the easy way and gone numb. Instead of a mood disorder I could have let myself become a Sociopath. That for me is the worst kind of life a sould eating illness. Don't get me wrong I don't condemn those who went down that path I identify with you. Sometimes instead of a lecture a hug does more. Instead of a scream a kind gentle voice teaches humility.
The reason I ask is that I come from a family with mental illness and mood disorders. Being the middle child was everything and more that they say it is in the books.
I'm not sure if this is why I'm what is considered an Empath or if I would have been one even if my childhood had been Idillic.
I do know this it has given me an insight into the Sociology of our society today.
Everytime I start to feel sorry for myself I remember it could have been worse I could feel nothing. I could have chosen the easy way and gone numb. Instead of a mood disorder I could have let myself become a Sociopath. That for me is the worst kind of life a sould eating illness. Don't get me wrong I don't condemn those who went down that path I identify with you. Sometimes instead of a lecture a hug does more. Instead of a scream a kind gentle voice teaches humility.
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Comment by sharon on November 24, 2010 at 6:10am
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Old habbets do indeed die hard. I think of life like a building. Baby years builds the foundation, next few years the basement, teen years the first floor and then up it goes. To get a good strong house you need a strong foundation and once the bricks and morter is inplace renovations and changes are difficult but not impossible with work and perseverance to get the changes you want - and of course builder friends to carry the heavy stuff helps.
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Comment by Becky on November 23, 2010 at 10:03am
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I do have a therapist it's just that old habits die hard ya know?
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Therapy helps alot. It gets things into perspective and its amazing what you can learn about yourself and others that influence and shape your life. Im lucky in that I had a wonderful stepfather during my teen years who had the patience of a proverbial saint - and still does. Stability is one thing everybody needs when there is a hot head in the house. He taught me lessions that I still use today one of them being that I can only be responsible for MY actions and the path I travel is mine alone so the friends I need to choose need to complement and support me (and kick my ass when they have to).. I keep a journal when I get moody and it helps get my thoughts into line and reading it back it puts things into perspective. Maby you should try it and see if it helps - just dont leave it lying around - I did it once and then nearly killed my brother afterwards but he deserved it
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Therapy helps. Thanks for the moral support. This is why I blog it helps keep the sceaming at bay. My problem is I tend to turn others anger and bad emotions on myself and self flaggelate. I blame myself for others flaws
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Its loss of control as one cant project fears and insecurities onto onself so they project it onto others weaker then themselves. I also think that sometimes the aggressive behaviour towards another gives some a sence of importance that they got that person to do what they want. The problem with this mentality is that they are unwilling to bear the consequences of their actions and others take the fall. From personal experience I give them the pros and cons and then distance myself so that I dont get caught in the riptide that follows their poor judgement. As humans I think we have a lot to learn about not judging others, to be considerate and accepting of others falts and being accountible for our acts and omissions towards both ourselves and our planet. History is a facinating thing as it can teach lessions otherwise never learnt and can give strength to take lifes journey. I hope you find that strength and peace
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